Divorce is not something that pops into one’s head out of nowhere. It can build up gradually, fueled by little things that frustrate you about your partner until you’ve had enough. While most people associate divorce with cases of violence or adultery, it can also benefit couples whose relationships lack emotional connection.
An unhappy marriage can be bad for your health
Sometimes a marriage is just fine. Both partners get along well, are financially stable and are great with children. But there’s a catch: They can’t be intimate with one another, don’t communicate and do not share the same principles.
When you hear about people who have it worse, you may believe that sticking it out with a decent marriage is preferable to having a poor one. Despite thinking that things could be better, you may start to doubt yourself. You might wonder if you will ever be happy again or if a divorce is even worth the trouble.
An unhappy marriage can make you feel alone even when you are together. It also has negative effects on your well-being. Studies show that remaining in an unhappy marriage lowers a person’s self-esteem, life satisfaction and general health. Physical symptoms of mental health issues, including depression, anxiety and stress, may also emerge over time.
Go back to your “why”
Your feelings are valid. It’s okay to feel a little guilty about the thought of leaving your partner. Divorce is something that needs careful consideration.
To help you decide, you can think back to what triggered the idea in the first place. Why were you feeling so miserable that you wanted to end your marriage? These thoughts can help you feel more confident in your decision and push away any remaining doubts.
If you can’t seem to get over your hesitations, you may try listing the reasons that have led you to consider divorce. You can also write down the sort of relationship and life you would prefer instead. This way, if your mind starts to wander, you have something tangible to go back to. Hold onto it and store it somewhere safe.
Most people who did not push through a divorce while they were younger end up divorcing in their 50s. They report feeling happier and more liberated. You can, too, and doing it now means you won’t have to wait as long to start over.