When two people who seem very different decide to get married, you’ll often hear people say that opposites attract. Someone may be confused about why the two would want to be a couple in the first place, and this is the reason given. People assume that they’re attracted to the very qualities they don’t have themselves.
But is this true? Or are opposites actually far more likely to get divorced?
It’s nothing more than an outdated saying
The reality is that the idea that opposites attract is just an old adage that has been said for centuries. There’s no evidence that it’s true at all — unless you are talking about two magnets where the opposite magnetic polarity will cause them to attract. But things like this have no bearing on human relationships, and there are plenty of other adages you could point to – such as “birds of a feather flock together” – to show that it’s actually better for people who are similar to be together.
In a lot of cases, people who are too dissimilar may just be setting themselves up for a divorce. For instance, many couples run into financial issues when one person wants to save money and the other wants to spend money. These people are just opposites in the way that they view their finances. They may not mind that when they’re dating, but it can cause some serious financial problems when they’re married, and that’s why finances are one of the main reasons that couples disagree.
If you’re married to someone who is the opposite of you and you’re thinking about divorce, take the time to carefully look into your legal options so that you can protect your future.