Divorce is a big step leading to a big life change. You wonder whether it is realistic for you to pursue, whether it is the right move for you and how it will affect so many aspects of your life from your children, where you live and your lifestyle.
It is natural for the questions to mount. You will have many as you ponder whether to go through with a divorce. And while you carefully think about these important questions, understand that only you can answer them. Trust your instincts, seek advice and reevaluate.
Happiness, finances and children
When considering a divorce, here are a few of the questions to ask yourself and seek answers to:
- Will I achieve happiness?: Gradually, you can reach this goal. If you are in an unhappy or abusive marriage, there is no other direction to go but up. You can regain your identity, pursue interests that you have longed to do and gain a new circle of friends. Whether you take things slowly or dive right into your new life is up to you.
- Can I financially survive on my own or as a divorced parent?: There will be challenges, no doubt about it. But you will have to embrace a new plan and possibly a new lifestyle. Certain sacrifices must be made but with some discipline and perseverance, you may weather this transition.
- How will divorce change and affect my children?: The emotions of youngsters will be many from sadness and anger to confusion and anxiety. Your children likely will feel a great amount of loss. But you must reassure them that both parents will remain in their lives and that you love them unconditionally.
- Will I be able to fulfill the tasks my former spouse did?: Whether it is cooking, paying bills, overseeing financial investments or transporting your children to school- and sports-related activities, you must understand that your workload will increase. The tasks that your spouse once did now must be done by you.
These are just a few of the questions that will surface. Tackle them one at a time.
Trust yourself, too
Granted, you are going through a challenging time. You may have doubts but also certainties. Turn to trusted family and friends who may provide vital insight. However, only you know the answers, steps and direction you must take. Do not forget to trust yourself.