If this is your first or second holiday season after a divorce, it can get pretty lonely. You may find yourself reminiscing of the good old times when you were at your happiest surrounded by family, when laughter and cheer spread through every corner of your home, a far cry from the present.
Especially if you are a non-custodial parent, going over your first holidays can seem almost impossible at first. Many tend to spend their time indoors, probably in a bid to try and numb the flurry of emotions, but it may not be the best way to go about it.
Turn to your support system
It is advisable to reach out to your close family and friends who understand your situation. Having your social circle around will distract your mind now and then, which is just what you need. Isolating yourself may lead to depression or even give rise to dependency on drugs or alcohol.
Do what you makes you happy
It may be the perfect time to explore your hobbies if you haven’t yet. Engage in activities that will lift your spirits. Be it that dancing class you always wanted to sign up for or a gym membership you kept delaying – anything to release your feel-good hormones.
It will not last forever
Accepting your feelings is the first step towards overcoming them. Acknowledge that times have changed, let go of the past and welcome your new lease of life. If you feel overwhelmed, you may seek professional help from a counselor, who is likely to be of assistance.
While going through a divorce can seem to be the lowest point in life, it may also provide the perfect launching pad to a more fulfilling and successful life ahead. Despite the odds, it gets better with time.