The months, weeks, and days before, during, and after divorce tend to be very difficult. One day you may be so angry at yourself and future ex that you cannot even think straight, the next day you are drowning in your own tears when you comprehend the failure of one of the most important projects in your life – your marriage.
Days later, you look back and regret how you responded to your child’s questions and feel you let them down. Make no mistake, resentment, anger, feelings of betrayal, and sometimes, self-guilt can certainly take over your whole being during the divorce process; and controlling these feelings can be a daunting task.
Here are a few tips that can help you cope with emotions before, during and after the divorce process.
If it is beyond you, let go of it
It is not unusual to be faced with painful or uncomfortable situations during the divorce process. However, you need to learn to let it go. It is important that you figure out what is best for you, and then work towards it. The key is to remain focused on what you can control and let everything else go.
Focus on your physical wellbeing
It is important that you stay active by taking up a regular exercise routine. Exercises can help stabilize your emotions by relieving anger, anxiety and tension. In fact, studies have shown that exercise can reduce the body’s stress hormones, cortisol and adrenaline. After all, exercise has been used to successfully manage anxiety disorders as well as clinical depression, so get on with it!
Get professional help
There is no harm in getting help during a divorce. The more you address your emotional needs, the better you will be able to cope with life changes that come with divorce. Allow yourself to have a healthy outlet for your emotions so they do not overwhelm and lead you down the path of destruction.
Divorce is a loss, a loss of the family you have worked hard to build. It is important that you manage your emotions during this period so you can come out stronger and ready to face the next chapter of your life.