Some of the difficulties of going through a divorce stem from the emotional aspects of your break-up, while other challenges stem from having to change your entire lifestyle around.
Moving and expecting your children to be ready for all the change to come can cause a lot of stress. But many families opt to nest after divorce to relieve anxiety about the unknowns.
The gist of nesting
Through a nesting arrangement, each co-parent lives their life between two homes. One of these homes is the family home. The family home will also serve as a permanent spot for their children to live. Essentially, whenever it’s your parenting time, you make yourself comfortable at the family home. And whenever it’s your co-parent’s parenting time, you live somewhere off-site. The off-site dwelling can be something you share with your ex or a private spot, depending on your budget or how long you’d like to keep a nesting arrangement in place.
Create a sense of normalcy
Living through a global pandemic and separating from your spouse at the same time can cause you to feel like your world is anything but steady or predictable. Therefore, you can find comfort through staying in a home and remaining part of a community that is familiar to you and your family. It’s possible that you’ve set up a home office that suits you well and your children have a designated hybrid learning or homework space that helps them succeed in school. Keeping the family home, means keeping these setups.
Kids keep their routines
If you and your co-parent decide to move out of the family home, then it can be challenging to make sure your children adhere to the same daily and weekly habits and routines. Staying in the same home might make it easier to keep your kids on the same wake up and sleep time schedule. And your children might even get better quality sleep because they don’t have to acclimate to any new bedrooms.
Providing a small sense of stability can offer great relief.